Multi-day couples therapy intensives in Houston
Stabilize your relationship in a weekend
You are desperate to rebuild trust but you can never seem to get ahead of your latest fight.
You feel deeply disconnected and alone, even when you are together. It’s hard to hold on to the hope that you can ever feel connected to your partner like you used to.
Maybe you are even so desperate for something to change in your relationship that thoughts of separation or divorce are creeping in.
Something has to change… and change quickly.
Unpacking the complexity of your lives in short 75-minute weekly meetings is difficult, especially when you have to return to work or pick up the kids right after the session.
With an intensive, we have time to relax, settle in, and really get to work on the knots tangling your connection. While we do take breaks, there’s no need to catch up or plan the next session, which often takes time at the beginning and end of weekly sessions.
Intensive couple therapy can accomplish in a few days what typically takes months of weekly couples therapy.
On the other side of your couples therapy intensive, you and your partner will:
Understand the true root of the ongoing arguments and how to stop them in their tracks
You'll feel more of a team, focused on validating each other's feelings before solving problems
Identify signs of when you're triggered, overwhelmed, and need to take a break
Feel more deeply understood, seen, and connected to your partner
Take the blame away from you or your partner's patterns and work towards compassion for each other
A personalized plan of how to nurture and rebuild the relationship after the intensive
Months of couples therapy in just days
A TYPICAL SCHEDULE
We offer 2-day and 3-day couples therapy intensives.
DAY ONE
Typically we meet for 5-6 hours on the first day.
Session 1: Joint session focused on high level overview of your relationship strengths and challenges. Typically this takes from 1-2 hours.
Individual sessions: After the initial joint session, each partner has an individual session. The purpose of the individual sessions is to get your unique personal history and perspective on the relationship. Each session is approximately one hour.
End of day session: We end the first day meeting jointly again to bring together the insights of the day and plan for the next day. This session varies from 1-2 hours.
DAYS TWO AND THREE
Depending on your needs, we meet 3-5 hours on the subsequent days of the intensive. Day Two of a 3-day intensive is more likely to be 3–4 hours, where we might meet for 4-5 hours on day two of a 2-day intensive. Here is a typical schedule.
Session 1: 2-hour joint session
Lunch break
Session 2: 2-hour joint session
Intensive couples therapy is right for you if…
You are ready to make changes in your relationship and put in the work.
You are in crisis but both partners want to try to make it work.
You just can't make weekly counseling work with demanding schedules and/or the childcare shuffle.
You are currently in couples therapy with another therapist and want an immersive, intensive booster shot. (To build on your previous work, Dr. Spiller will get your permission to speak with your current therapist.)
If for some reason you are coming from out of town, such as:
If you don’t have a local experienced, expert EFT therapist in your area.
You are a therapist and prefer the anonymity of doing therapy off your home turf.
You would like to get away AND have more time and space to work on restoring your relationship.
The intensive format is not for every couple.
If you and your partner have different goals for therapy, this isn't a good format for you. If one of you is unsure whether to work on the relationship, a discernment counseling intensive may be more helpful.
Dr. Spiller frequently works with affair recovery, but when a partner is in an ongoing affair, intensives are contra-indicated.
Couples with active domestic violence, particularly where there are dangerous and threatenings behaviors (beyond the angry yelling that many couples experience in their negative cycles or arguments) may not be appropriate for this format.
When one or both partners are actively struggling with significant, problematic substance use.
Couples who, for whatever reason, cannot be together for extended periods of time in a productive manner will find it difficult to benefit from an intensive.
Couples who are not ready to make significant or rapid changes in their relationship will benefit from the slower, more gradual pace of regular weekly couple therapy.
FAQ
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The cost of your intensive will be based on the format and number of hours that best fit your needs and schedule. Once we decide on a schedule, the intensive will be priced at $325/hour. This price includes Dr. Spiller’s time to connect and consult with referring and/or treating individual or couples therapists and to collect and review the pre-meeting assessment as well as provide feedback after the intensive to the therapists that will provide follow-up treatment.
A typical 2-day intensive costs $3575 and a 3-day intensive costs $4875.
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Dr. Spiller will talk with you prior to the intensive and help you plan for how to continue to strengthen your relationship and maintain the positive changes following the intensive. Typically Dr. Spiller assists you to connect with another experienced couples therapist and provides consultation to that therapist to help you build upon the work you do in the intensive.
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A non-refundable deposit for half the amount of your total intensive cost is required to reserve your dates. If you need to reschedule your intensive, you can do so up to 1 week before and the non-refundable deposit will be applied toward your rescheduled date. Cancellations within a week of the scheduled intensive incur the cost of the deposit.
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It is not unusual to worry that this type of therapy will be too intense or overwhelming. The term intensive refers to the amount of time that is concentrated over a few days. While you can expect to be drained by the end of each day, we carefully attend to your ability to engage and need for breaks. We tailor the schedule to your needs with more frequent or longer breaks as needed.
