Strong, secure relationships are necessary for all of us to thrive.

Nothing brought you greater joy than the love you found with your partner. You could not wait to be together; the closeness you felt was special, energizing and reassuring.

However, today those intense and wondrous feelings may have been unfortunately replaced with:

You both feel stuck. You’ve tried to discuss your differences, yet old issues never get resolved, and the pain you’re feeling can lead to hopelessness.

Couples just like you (indeed, you’re not alone!) who are considering marriage counseling are wondering:

Answers to these questions can depend on where your feelings are in your marriage or relationship.

My goal as a psychologist who specializes in working with couples and individuals on relationship issues is to assist you at any stage of your journey.

My extensive training and experience help you:

We’re Seeking Marriage Counseling to Reconnect & Fall Back in Love

marriage counselingTo guide you through this process I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (also known as EFT), the most-successful marriage counseling approach to helping couples improve their relationship.Uniquely, Emotionally Focused Therapy focuses on the interactions between you and your partner — and avoids blaming either of you for disagreements in your relationship. Based in solid and proven scientific theory, in EFT couples counseling, you’ll learn:
  • A deeper understanding of yourself and your partner and how you interact in the relationship when you’re not getting along
  • To go well beyond merely learning how to talk to one another and to truly understand and appreciate your partner’s perspective
  • To better resolve hurt feelings and misunderstandings and to avoid building resentments
  • How to keep your marriage or relationship strong into the future
  • To recover from infidelity

Emotionally Focused Therapy is the most research-supported model of marriage counseling, with a 70 to 75% rate of recovery from relationship distress. Overall, 90% of couples experience some improvement. Learn More about Reconnecting. 

We’re Not Sure We Should Stay Together

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Discernment Counseling is a new and very-specific approach to helping couples who are uncertain whether to continue on in the relationship or marriage.

For couples facing ambivalence, Discernment Counseling gives you a unique opportunity to truly get to the heart of each partner’s concerns and to take a deeper dive into their own feelings about the future of the relationship. Couples can explore in individual sessions how each of you  may be contributing to interactions that lead to greater disconnection.

This well-designed approach is ideal when one partner is leaning toward leaving and the other would like to continue the relationship.

This marriage counseling process is limited to no more than five sessions and is not designed to solve problems in the relationship. Rather, the goal is to explore, in individual sessions, each partner’s emotions about going forward together or apart. 

I then guide you in joint sessions at the end of each individual time to share together what you have discovered.

Our goal is to achieve clarity about three distinct alternative paths for the relationship’s future. Learn more about Discernment Counseling.

Moving On Alone with a Healthy Perspective

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The pain of a relationship that ended does not have to be endured alone. My work with individuals helps you recover from a break-up or divorce while giving you an opportunity for greater personal discovery and understanding.

Moving forward after the ending of an important relationship can be a time of considerable confusion: Accepting that the relationship is over while still having strong feelings for the lost partner; allowing space for healthy grief; and discovering how you will proceed alone, often for the first time after years of being part of a couple.

Too often, the pain of a break-up can carry into future relationships in ways that may limit the possibility of developing a close connection with your new partner. 

In divorce recovery therapy, you can achieve greater understanding of the reasons for the breakup. Foremost, however, is the chance to be more intentional in the life you now choose.

Learn more about divorce and relationship recovery. 

Which Path Is Best for You?

I encourage you to schedule a conversation with me at no cost to discuss which approach feels right for you. This gives you an opportunity to ask questions about any concerns related to marriage counseling and to see whether we are a good fit to work together.

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About Me and My Practice

My passion is helping couples reconnect and develop a strong foundation from which they can take on any challenge. Having experienced highs and lows in my own marriage, I understand the pain of reaching out to your partner and not finding him as well as the strength and peace of feeling safe and loved. I specialize in using scientific, innovative couples therapy approaches that provide proven tools to help couples stop hurting each other and become a team again.

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