COUPLES THERAPY
Reconnect and build an unshakable foundation that lasts
You remember many times when you were so connected, best friends, and “that couple” others admired.
Then all the demands of life started to overshadow your closeness, and you’ve become more like roommates. You argue more with the same disagreements cropping up because you can’t seem to resolve big or even small differences.
Yet, you want to learn how to restore the loving and supportive togetherness you cherished. You long to to return to all the joy that was the hallmark of being “that couple.”
A Powerful Combination of Proven Approaches that Help Couples Recover Their Connection
We bring years of training and experience
using scientifically based, highly successful methods of relationship therapy
Learn to:
Move away from cycles of repeated arguments and learn to create new understanding of yourself and your partner
Resolve issues, old and new, with greater appreciation of each partner’s perspective and deeper feelings
Manage stressful situations as a team
Recover from emotionally hurtful events and move forward with renewed connection
Shift the way you think about stress and challenging events, allowing better choices both as a couple and as individuals
The Strengths & Wisdom of Emotionally Focused Therapy
Years ago, couples counseling consisted primarily of teaching couples how to talk to one another. The success was limited and rarely lasting.
Emotionally Focused Therapy, commonly known as EFT, offers couples a strongly research-supported and scientifically-based roadmap to recovery from relationship distress.
Importantly, the process is gentle and affirming of each partner’s uniqueness and his or her desires to be a loving partner.
In its unique approach, EFT is remarkable in its process because:
The cycle of arguing, distancing and disconnection is identified as the problem — not either of you!
Each partner gains a new understanding of his or her style of connecting with their partner, which can hold the keys to lasting and positive change.
Couples gain a new framework of communication, but from the all-important perspective of deeply understanding your partner and yourself.
Toward Greater Acceptance and Commitment
In my years of working with couples, I’ve watched them struggle with strong emotions and how to better navigate challenging situations. To help you become more skillful in coping with difficult events, I weave into our work the research-supported strengths of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, commonly called ACT.
In ACT couples counseling, you’ll learn:
To slow down your emotional reactions to events or troubling thoughts
Greater acceptance of circumstances or feelings such as anxiety or uncertainty
To allow the feelings to occur rather than spending countless energy in suppressing or avoiding those thoughts or beliefs
To develop greater compassion toward your own challenges — and those facing your partner.
ACT helps you fully make space for your inner experience rather than attempt (often endlessly) to control feelings or situations.
Our Areas of Expertise
Meet Our Team
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Dr. Laura Spiller, Psychologist
Dual-career professional couples, affair recovery, discernment counseling, blended families, business partners, relationships affected by anxiety or ADHD
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Dr. Rachel Floyd, Postdoctoral Fellow
Couples, high-functioning professionals, men navigating modern masculinity, women’s issues (including PMDD & PD)
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Deanna Pollard, MA, Advanced Doctoral Student
Couples, trauma, communication issues, intimacy concerns, break up recovery, dating insight and support
