Help for Relationships

“No one can dance with a partner and not touch each other’s raw spots. We must know what these raw spots are and be able to speak about them in a way that pulls our partner closer to us.”

-Sue Johnson, creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

You can remember the times when you and your partner really connected and being together felt great. Now it seems like the demands of life have overwhelmed your relationship. Even though you are still together, you often feel lonely and yearn for those good times. A close and supportive relationship is possible.

Dr. Spiller helps couples interrupt negative cycles that lead to disconnection and learn how to reach for their partners in ways that help the partner respond supportively. You can have a strong, loving relationship again!

Dr. Spiller’s work with couples includes:

  • Strengthening or healing a relationship during a difficult life transition
  • Helping couples recover from loss
  • Coming together to help a partner heal from medical crises or injuries​
  • Navigating intergenerational or cross-cultural challenges​
  • Affair recovery

I work with couples or individuals at all relationship stages, including:

  • Dating coaching
  • Premarital counseling
  • Couples thinking about divorce
  • Couples who have decided on divorce but want help with uncoupling and to make the transition as painless as possible for themselves and their family.
  • Individuals who want to heal from a painful breakup
  • People who are tired of repeating the same negative relationship patterns over and over, who want a healthier, more satisfying future relationship.