Couples Therapy Intensives

Are you thinking about starting couples therapy but wish you could jump past the weeks of sessions it will take to really make progress?

Are you struggling to have hope that you can ever feel connected to your partner like you used to? Is your desperation for something to change in your relationship leading you to think about separation or divorce? Do you want to make time to work on your relationship but weekly couples therapy just doesn’t work well with your lives? 

If this sounds like you, then your relationship may get the jump-start it needs from intensive couples therapy. 

What is Intensive Couples Therapy?

Intensive couple therapy can accomplish in a few days what typically takes months of weekly couples therapy. Couples meet one-on-one with Dr. Spiller for 10-15 hours over 2-3 days. The intensive is private and personalized to your needs. A typical intensive is 4-5 hours a day for 3 days.

Benefits of Intensive Couples Therapy

Unpacking the complexity of your lives in short 75 minute weekly meetings is difficult, especially when you have to return to work or pick up the kids right after the session. With an intensive, we have time to relax, settle in, and really get to work on the knots tangling your connection. While we do take breaks, there’s no need to catch up or plan the next session that often takes time at the beginning and end of weekly sessions. 

Which couples should consider doing an intensive? If the following descriptions sound like you, then a private couples therapy intensive might make sense for you.

  • If you are ready to make changes in your relationship and put in the work. 
  • If you are in crisis – but both partners want to try to make it work.
  • If you just can’t make weekly counseling work with demanding schedules and/or the childcare shuffle.
  • If you are currently in couples therapy with another therapist and want an immersive, intensive booster shot. (To build on your previous work, Dr. Spiller will get your permission to speak with your current therapist.)
  • If for some reason you are coming from out of town, such as:
    • If you don’t have a local EFT therapist in your area.
    • You are a therapist and prefer the anonymity of doing therapy off your home turf.
  • If you would like to get away AND have more time and space to work on restoring your relationship.

Intensives are not for every couple. Please read this list to determine if you’re a candidate for an intensive:

  • Dr. Spiller frequently works with affair recovery, but when a partner is in an ongoing affair, intensives are contra-indicated.
  • Couples with active domestic violence, particularly where there are behaviors such as hitting, insulting, threatening physical harm and screaming, and other dangerous and/or intimidating behaviors (beyond the angry yelling that many couples experience in their negative cycles or arguments) may not be appropriate for this format.
  • Couples who for whatever reason cannot be together for extended time in a productive manner will find it difficult to benefit from an intensive.  
  • Couples who are not ready to make significant or rapid changes in their relationship. The slower pace of regular weekly couple therapy allows each partner to process their experiences at their own, more gradual pace.

Couples’ Intensives Policies & Disclaimers

What are the costs?

The cost of your intensive will be based on the format and number of hours that best fit your needs and schedule.  A typical 2-day intensive is $3500 and a typical 3-day intensive is $5000.  This price includes Dr. Spiller’s time to connect and consult with referring and/or treating individual or couples therapists and to collect and review the pre-meeting assessment as well as provide feedback after the intensive to the therapists that will provide follow-up treatment. Lodging and meals are on your own.