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5 Tips for Talking to Your Kids About Divorce

Divorce can feel like a dirty word even today. No matter how far we’ve come as a society and how much acceptance there is to go around there is still something about divorce that makes people feel embarrassment, shame, and disappointment. This, of course, should not be the case. There is nothing to be ashamed of about divorce. People change,...[ read more ]

Romantic At-Home Date Ideas

Romance in Quarantine: Romantic At-Home Date Ideas

As Valentine's Day approaches, the allure of a cozy and intimate celebration at home is as good as it gets for many couples. Whether you find yourselves amidst the delightful chaos of parenthood with little ones running about without a reliable sitter or you simply revel in the warmth of your own space, there's a special charm in creating romantic...[ read more ]

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Overcoming Defensiveness for Lasting Connection

Defensiveness

Welcome to our Couples Therapy Blog, where we explore the complexities of relationships and offer insights to help you and your partner build a stronger, more fulfilling connection. In today's post, we delve into the coping strategy of defensiveness and its impact on relationships. We'll explore how understanding the underlying needs and fostering open communication can pave the way for...[ read more ]

Does a Secure Relationship Require You to Be Together ALL the Time?

buoys in the ocean

In couples therapy,  it's common for clients to wonder what secure relationships actually look like. Secure relationships are flexible. The more we can reach out to our partner and trust them to be there, the more separate and independent we can be. What does independence and separation look like when couples have a secure bond? I like the metaphor of...[ read more ]

How to Communicate with your Partner about Money

the importance of communication

Money is often touted as one of the most common causes of arguments in relationships. But that isn’t entirely accurate. It is more the lack of money, the fact that you can’t agree on how the money should be spent, or the fact that you just aren’t communicating enough about money that is causing the strife. Most of us know...[ read more ]

How to Create the Best Version of Yourself After Divorce

Best Version of Yourself After Divorce

Once the dust settles post-divorce, a mix of emotions tends to linger. Regardless of how you got here, it's vital to acknowledge that you're stepping onto a path of self-discovery. Life after divorce might seem intimidating, draining, and occasionally isolating. However, with resilience, you can navigate these challenges and emerge as a more authentic version of yourself. It's time to...[ read more ]

Navigating Online Dating

Online Dating

In a world where technology has become an integral part of our daily lives, it's no surprise that the quest for love has taken a digital turn. Online dating has become a powerful and accessible tool for meeting new people and potentially finding your perfect match. But as we navigate the vast landscape of virtual connections, it's essential to equip...[ read more ]

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy 101

couple at home sitting on a couch touching noses

Feeling distant or disconnected in our romantic relationships can be deeply uncomfortable, if not downright terrifying. Regrettably, our reactions to these moments of disconnection often complicate the repair process. Emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT) provides a route through these challenging times, as demonstrated by Jill and Mark's experience. Unraveling Patterns of Miscommunication Consider Jill, who feels isolated whenever Mark spends...[ read more ]